The search for someone to blame is always successful.
There can be no doubt that the average man blames much more than he praises. His instinct is to blame. If he is satisfied he says nothing; if he is not, he most illogically kicks up a row.
There is luxury in self-reproach. When we blame ourselves, we feel no one else has a right to blame us.
There's man all over for you, blaming on his boots the fault of his feet.
They have a right to censure that have a heart to help.
Think how many blameless lives are brightened by the blazing indiscretions of other people.
To find a fault is easy; to do better may be difficult.
We must remember not to judge any public servant by any one act, and especially should we beware of attacking the men who are merely the occasions and not the cause of disaster.
Whatever side I take, I know well that I will be blamed.
When we blame, we give away our power.
When you blame others, you give up your power to change.
When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look into the reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change. –
Yes, there are times when something is legitimately not our fault. Blaming others, however, keeps us in a stuck state and is ultimately rough on our own self-esteem.
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